Learning To Let Go

by Rachel

learning to let goFor the past few months, my four year old has been walking around the house belting out the lyrics from a certain movie featuring certain “frozen” princesses. Even my toddler joins in, although his contribution mainly consists of matching consonant and vowel blends in time with the tune. After catching myself murmuring “let it go… let it go…” along with them for the bajillionith time, I started to think about the power of those words.

Learning To Let Go

Not the message from the actual song, mind you (although here is not the time or place to argue about the messages behind such lyrics), but the simple act of letting go, as applied to our lives. There is so much that we carry around with us, things we might not even be consciously aware of, that nevertheless affect our day-to-day happiness, as well as our relationships with the people in our lives.

It is expecting a lot out of ourselves to think we can decide to let go of all our baggage and, once the decision is made, simply snap our fingers and do it. (That kind of magic generally only happens in the aforementioned cartoons.) We run the risk of simply choosing not to address emotional issues that need addressing, and burying baggage is a sure-fire way to ensure it springs up again.

On the flip side, it’s easy to get stuck in a rut regarding issues that really do need to be let go of, dredging them up over and over again for a variety of reasons – because we have not dealt with them appropriately, or because we are afraid to face our lives without the security of the excuse that they give us for certain behaviors.
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