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5 Ways To Lead Happy Employees

happy employeesAs an employee, we want to work in a job and an atmosphere that make us happy. After all, we spend 40 hours or more each week at work, so we want to make sure that we are not working in a place that makes us miserable. While it is not 100% up to the employer to make us happy, the employer can do things that help keep our attitudes positive and breed more happiness than unhappiness. If you are an employer, here are 5 tips to lead happy employees.

5 Tips To Lead Happy Employees


This is the biggest way employers can help make the work environment a pleasant one. But you can’t just listen, you also have to act. I can’t tell you how many jobs I’ve had where we had to complete surveys about what we like and what we don’t like about our place of employment. Not once did I ever see anyone’s thoughts be put into action.

If you want to breed unhappiness, then ask for opinions and then ignore them. You are guaranteed to create resentment among your employees. So make sure you listen and then act. This isn’t to say you have install the swimming pool or let everyone work from home every Friday, but implement some of the suggestions. And for the ones you don’t implement, acknowledge them. Talk about why you think they wouldn’t be a great idea. While no one likes having their idea shot down, it is better than having them be completely ignored.

Be Aware Of Your Message

This isn’t to say to think more about your slogan or mission statement. Rather it is to remind you to think about the message you are sending to your employees. In other words, work on your leadership skills.

When I first started working at a company, the owner would say good morning all of the time. He would come into my office and just small talk with me for 5 minutes. It was great. It made me feel like he actually cared about me.

Fast forward a few years when the economy turned, I wouldn’t get a hello. Heck, I never even got noticed. I felt invisible, like I didn’t matter to the team anymore. I’m not saying you have to use your entire morning to have small talk with your employees but find ways to interact with them more, to make them feel a part of the team. A simple “good morning” or “good night” is a great start.

If you have a small team, you might even consider buying lunch and eating together once a month as a way to team build. You don’t have to talk work, just talk about your lives outside of work.

Acknowledge Employees

When your employees do something good, acknowledge it. Trust me, it will make them work that much harder for you because so many companies don’t recognize their employees. The two best jobs I ever had would regularly acknowledge people. Once, we had a weekly meeting for 10 minutes on Fridays. Management would hand out cards that said “rock on” and on the back, why you earned that card.

There was nothing else tied to it, other than announcing you and your accomplishment during the meeting. Again, it doesn’t have to be earth-shattering, just note when they go able and beyond the call.

Don’t Go Overboard At First

While I hope I am giving you good suggestions to implement, don’t jump in head first and try to do them all. Most likely you will fall short on all of them. Also, your employees might wonder what is up. You have to slowly build their trust up. It’s just like any relationship, come on too strong and you appear desperate. Red flags appear and people cut and run.

Reward More

Finally, once you build up the trust level, find ways to bring on more meaningful rewards and recognition to your team. Come up with some ideas and ask them what would mean the most to them. Additionally, be sure to ask for their input as to what would be good things to include on the list.

When thinking of a list, know that the possibilities are only limited to the general rules of the company. If you run your own small business, then anything really is on the table. But for a larger corporation, this isn’t going to be the case. Some ideas include an extra vacation day, come in late one day a week, a gift card to a grocery store or gas station. Really, there are tons of things you could use to reward your employees. Just remember that this is about them and not you. Don’t pick things you want, but rather what they want.

Final Thoughts

By taking the time to acknowledge employees and rewarding them, both for big and small accomplishments, they will be happier. And a happier employee works harder and is more loyal which in the end, helps to grow the business and cut down on costs.

The Take Away Game

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Remember Pollyanna, the eternally optimistic heroine of book and screen? I watched the Hailey Mills version as a child many times, and one thing I still think of from the movie is her "glad game", a game which involved finding something to be glad about in everything, even her own (temporary) paralysis.While the glad game seems like a beautiful idea, it's not always a practical one - no one who has just lost a loved one, for instance, or broken both legs, wants to … [Read the full article]

Stop Trying to Figure Everything Out: The Art Of Letting Go

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We tend to want to know reasons. Why did she break up with me? Why didn’t I get that job? The list goes on and on. We spend so much time dwelling on the past when we should be focused on the present and thoughts of the future and what is ahead of us. A great saying is that God put eyes in the front of our head so we can see what’s coming, not where we came from. The Art of Letting Go All the effort and energy you put into trying to figure things out is wasted. You … [Read the full article]

Interpreting Failure

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While most of us love to celebrate our achievements and accomplishments, it's pretty unlikely that after a successful endeavor we go around claiming that we are the best that's ever been. So why is this such a go-to behavior when we fail?After a good day with the kids (one where we make it to pre-school on time, have zero toddler-shouting matches and eat dinner before eight o'clock at night - you know, it's the little things), I am likely to smile to myself and think … [Read the full article]

How to Break The Cycle of Not Being Good Enough

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Are you someone who struggles with the feeling of being unworthy or inadequate? Do you sometimes feel as though you are not good enough? If you do, you are not alone.We live in a world where we are constantly asked to compare ourselves to others whose standards we are expect to measure up to. All too often we are asked to be someone other than who we are. Many of us then lose ourselves.Being one’s self is no longer admired or encouraged. We are all expected to … [Read the full article]

Lymphedema Is A Lingering Threat To Cancer Survivors


Lymphedema, the swelling that occurs when the lymphatic system cannot properly carry and process fluids, is a common condition in people who have been treated for cancer. It usually occurs in the arms and legs, and the swollen area often is hot and sensitive to the touch. Although with time lymphedema may be reduced, there can be lingering swelling for years. Common In Cancer Survivors The development of cancer relies strongly on the lymphatic system, making it a … [Read the full article]

How To Complain And Get Results

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We all get frustrated at times in life. During these emotional times, many of us complain and in some cases, regret what we said. Other times we let our emotions guide our complaints and we immediately put the other person in defense mode and not trying to help us, but rather protect themselves. In this post, I am going to show you 4 questions you need to ask yourself before you complain. Following these will guide you into making the most of your complaint and … [Read the full article]

How To Get Happy Instantly!

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We all get in a funk or bad moods now and then. Even the most positive people are not immune to unhappiness at times. It’s a part of life. The key though is to not wallow in the unhappiness, but to break from the funk and start enjoying life again. This post is all about how to get happy instantly. When you follow these 3 tips, you will notice an immediate change to your mood and will feel refreshed, motivated and energized, ready to start achieving your goals. Let’s get … [Read the full article]