Life can get hectic at times. When these times arise, we need to remember that staying calm should be our number one priority. But staying calm in the face of adversity isn’t always easy. In fact, many times, when we are stressed about things in life, we begin to worry. Since worrying is a form of negative thinking, we need to push those thoughts out of our head as well. But how do we do this?
There are many things you can do to stay calm in life. I’ve written before about relaxation techniques for you to try when you get stressed. Here are a handful of helpful hints to staying calm.
Stop Worrying: I just touched on worry above but it bears repeating. Worrying is pointless. In fact worrying is like a rocking chair. You are going to put in a lot of effort and energy into it, but it isn’t going to get you anywhere.
You can’t change things by worrying about them. Likewise, you’ll find that 99% of the time, whatever you were worrying about never comes true. Stop wasting all of your energy and time on a fruitless task like worrying.
Remember Who Is In Control: At the end of the day, you control your thoughts and emotions. There was a time in my life when I had a very difficult breakup with a woman and I couldn’t shake the sadness and hurt. At the time, my niece was learning to talk and I had a video of her on my phone with my sister asking my niece to repeat words. When they got to their cat, Abraham, my niece simply said “ham”. To her she said the name correctly. She was so confident about it. I laughed hysterically and still do to this day. I watched that video on loops when I was feeling down to get me on a more positive and happy path. I learned that I controlled how I felt.
Stay Positive: As I did by watching the video of my niece, I learned to stay positive. Being positive is huge. Many of us have a hard time with learning how to think positively. The sooner we become optimists and learn to see the good things in life, the sooner that life becomes that much easier for us.
Learning To Stay Calm At Work
I had a job once that was in accounting for mutual funds. Every year end, we had to process the capital gains and dividend payments for all of the mutual funds we administered. Come the new year, we then had to prepare the 1099’s that were sent out to all of the investors. It was so crazy and hectic, we weren’t allowed to take vacation time from December through the end of January. We worked New Year’s Day as well as the first two Saturday’s in January.
There was always more than enough work to do and on top of the work, you had to double and triple check everything so that there weren’t any mistakes. My first year in this job, I almost lost it during this period. It was completely overwhelming. But my second and subsequent years, things were different. I took a new approach.
I learned that staying calm was essential. When I would be stressed out, I made more mistakes. So I made it a point to take a moment at my desk to just stop and take a few deep breaths. When I would go to the restroom, I took a minute to clear my mind.
On the outside, I was frantic and stressed. But deep down, I was staying calm. In many ways, I was like the ocean. On the surface, the water is choppy and depending on the winds, the waves can be tremendous. But, if you go down 30 feet, the water is calm and still.
On the surface, the ocean is frantic and stressed from all sorts of outside forces. But inside, deep down, the ocean is calm and tranquil. Learn to be like the ocean. You can have stress on the outside, but learn to keep calm deep down within.
Staying calm in the face of stress is not something that comes easy to most of us. It is something that we have to constantly be working on and improving upon. It is important that you do work at staying calm. Stress is linked to many health issues that can easily shorten our lives. Learn to stay calm in the face of difficult times and you will find that life is much easier.
Hi, my name is Don and I run Breath of Optimism. This site is here to help you stay positive and become the best you can be. We only get one shot at life, so we might as well make the most of it.